Family Estrangement
A Journey of Healing, Understanding and Reconciliation
Experiencing estrangement from both sides has given me a unique perspective-
one that deeply influenced how I approach and understand this experience. My story begins in my early 20's when I became estranged from my family. Like many young people, I often felt like I didn’t quite fit in, and the growing differences—particularly between me and my mom—eventually created an insurmountable divide.
I became estranged and went no contact. Of course, such terms didn't exist 30 years ago, but that's what it was and what I did.
For many years, I was in and out, throwing in the towel sometimes and reaching out during others, always hoping for a different outcome, but nothing seemed to change. "They" were never going to change (sound familiar?).
I grew up as a latchkey kid, often left alone to navigate life on my own, with no one around to listen or help. Seeking refuge, I turned to nature—the beauty and safety of my small Colorado mountain town near a river, became my sanctuary (shown in the photo). From a young age, I sensed a Divine presence always with me—a calm, steady voice in my chaotic world. This solitude, while not ideal perhaps for a "healthy" childhood, became my trusted guide and greatest teacher, helping me develop the inner tools I needed to heal and later guide others. My lifelong curiosity about the organic energy patterns in all things led me to use my experiences as a path for personal growth and as a way to help others access their own inner wisdom and healing potential.
Estrangement Will Change Who You Are Forever
In this short video, I share my story and a parent's perspective on the profound devastation of this experience—the shock, the heartbreak, and the deep descent into despair and utter hopelessness.
The Pain I Never Saw Coming: Experiencing Estrangement From The Receiving Side
Three decades later, I find myself on the receiving end of the unbearable pain of estrangement. The weight is crushing, the agony relentless—an all-consuming ache that feels like it’s tearing my soul apart, dragging me into a darkness I never imagined. It’s a torment that seeps into every moment, making even the simplest tasks feel impossible. The loneliness is suffocating, the questions endless. Will the pain ever ease? Can a heart survive being broken this completely? What will the impact be on my health, my mind, my very will to keep going?
Living with Invisible Wounds - The Weight of Unseen Scars
Feeling The Weight of My Own Struggle,
I Knew I Couldn't Be The Only One - As of 2024, Over 85 Million Families in the U.S. Alone, Are Navigating the Pain and Isolation of Family Estrangement.
After one year of the estrangement, I contacted my daughter, hoping we could put this nonsensical behavior behind us. She assured me the estrangement was permanent and nothing would change in the foreseeable future.
I was lost, overwhelmed, exhausted, and defeated. Not knowing what to do,
I decided to begin a weekly Zoom call for parents who were also going through this unbearable pain. Together, we commiserated and shared the intolerable pain. Yes, indeed, misery does love company.
I was feeling worse - not better.
I had to do something different...
My Something Different...
For decades, I dedicated myself to healing work, consistently immersing myself in different modalities and methods, such as meditation, somatic practices, A Course in Miracles, astrology, and, when things got really bad, therapy!
Yet, nothing seemed to work when I became estranged from my daughter.
Feeling lost, exhausted, and suicidal, I surrendered, not knowing what to do.
While trying my old "doing the work" method, I received a clear message from Spirit to incorporate a new five-step healing process and ritual (it sounds hokey, I know).
Uncertain and skeptical but desperate for relief, I tried it—and it worked!
The first layer I released was a deep-seated inner shame that I didn't know I was carrying and was unrelated to the estrangement. I felt a surge of inner peace and newfound hope.
It took a lot of courage and a giant leap of faith to share this new healing process with others. But I knew I had to. So, I invited members of my Zoom group, all struggling with the pain of estrangement, to join me. And the result was incredible. They, too, experienced profound breakthroughs, releasing their deepest pain and uncertainties.
(But don't take my word for it, I'll let them speak for themselves - click here).
In just a few weeks, everyone felt more grounded and at peace. As a result, new friendships were forged, fueling inspiration. Around the same time, I "randomly" met two young ladies (who looked like my daughters), and together, we launched...
The Multi-Generational Roundtable
That moment became a pivotal shift. Spirit showed me that true healing goes beyond personal effort; it’s about aligning with Divine guidance, walking unique paths, and openly sharing wisdom to help others on their own healing journeys.
The Multi-Generational Roundtable began in September 2023:
We gather every third Saturday of the month to share generational perspectives—YOU'RE INVITED TO JOIN US HERE!
Three Decades of Spiritual Growth: Incorporating the Wisdom Learned
From Life's Challenges on My Journey to Self-Discovery
For nearly three decades, I've been delving into the hidden forces behind human behavior, exploring the spiritual and psychological aspects that influence our actions and decisions. I've learned from every experience and every path that called me. As a student of world religions, I've explored inner-child work, somatic healing, and multiple rounds of A Course in Miracles and A Course of Love. Through it all, I've become deeply grateful for the past and present teachers who have helped me uncover deeper layers of myself.
When we shift our perspective on life's trials, we open ourselves to the transformative power of these challenges. They are not obstacles, but opportunities for growth, each carrying the lessons necessary for our soul's evolution.
I continue to understand that everything happens for a reason and that when the student is ready, the teacher will appear, and unfortunately, sometimes that teacher is that of pain and difficult times.
Each challenge I've faced has been a manifestation of the guiding force of Spirit, which I believe is always working to help my soul evolve. As Viktor Frankl wrote in Man's Search for Meaning: when we find the meaning in our suffering, we find the strength to survive and ultimately thrive. Life is indeed always happening for us, shaping the people we are meant to become in this world of uncertainty and change.
If You Feel Like You Will Never Get Your Family or Yourself Back, Welcome!
I too was oblivious to the concept of estrangement until it became a stark reality in my relationship with my youngest daughter. The confusion, pain, and silence were unbearable and often left me depressed, defeated, and questioning everything about myself and my life.
I'm no stranger to having a broken heart, but this was different, and if I wanted to survive, I had to learn a new way. I had to enlist everything I've studied and learned about life as a spiritual being and the human experience, reevaluating my perspective entirely.
My Results:
- Taking the first step was extremely difficult, but became easier with each day.
- I found deep inner peace and clarity within the first few weeks.
This recalibration led to a fresh inspiring life and having my daughter back effortlessly and a renewed relationship with my mom.
- (and the best part) - Others experienced this too!
I knew I couldn't keep this experience to myself!
That's why I created this healing course and community. I'm here to guide you to discover this level of freedom, inner peace, and profound emotional well-being for yourself and your family.
Embrace Your Power: How Your Choices Unlock the Path to
Self-Discovery and Peace
It's important to note that nothing you are experiencing is caused by anything outside of you.
You experience only the effects of your choice, and herein lies the opportunity and the portal to change everything.
As your Experience Practitioner and Guide, I am here to lead you back home to your Self, which will open the door to your heart's deepest desires and a return to peace.
Statistically, Estrangement Does Not Last A Lifetime
Are you ready for their return? Do you want them back? You might be conflicted.
When my daughter responded with the words, "I love and miss you too" after three years of estrangement, it was a powerful moment of healing, reflection, and hope. It signifies the possibility of rediscovering ourselves, mending broken bonds, and reaching a level of understanding that may have been buried beneath the trauma and
mis-communication. While the path to reconciliation may be filled with both joy and challenges, it's an opportunity for breaking family patterns, forgiveness, and the opportunity to create a fresh new start. It's a reminder that relationships, especially those bound by family, have the potential to evolve and grow stronger, even after spending years apart.
A loving reunion is absolutely possible, and I believe it doesn’t have to come after years of pain and struggle. If you’re curious about the steps I took, click here to learn more.
- This might be a good time to download our free timeline workbook -
See Your Estrangement From A Different Perspective
A Workbook For Reflection, Insights And Understanding
Healing from Within: How Bridging Generations Starts with Healing Ourselves
Perhaps because I was estranged from my family when I was younger, has allowed me to understand both sides.
Still, it didn't change the amount of work I needed to do on myself to heal from the trauma of losing my daughter, relating to her in a new way, and gaining new insights into having her back.
Not to mention, the simultaneous healing that took place with my other relationships.
You see, if our kids are withholding from us, we have to heal the relationships in which we are withholding from others
This is why healing is always an inside job.
Why This Healing Course and Community Are Different
A HOLISTIC PATH THROUGH LIFE'S TOUGHEST CHALLENGES:
From self-Doubt To Self Reclamation
Embracing authenticity and acknowledging one's true Self is a journey many undertake, but it's essential to consider a holistic approach that incorporates various elements for optimal growth and personality integration. At the core of this journey lies the intrinsic value of self-awareness and introspection. By removing obstacles and healing past wounds, you can move from self-doubt to Self-discovery, gaining a deeper understanding of your motivations and actions.
However, personal growth is not solely dependent on individual experiences. The value of diverse perspectives and seeking wisdom from others is invaluable. By engaging with an altruistic community, you can enrich your understanding of yourself and the world around you. This exchange of knowledge and insights fosters a more comprehensive view of life's challenges and opportunities, mirroring back to us what is most pressing for us to learn, and giving us the opportunity for deeper understanding and personality integration.
With this holistic approach, self-awareness and introspection serve as the foundation, while diverse perspectives and knowledge sources provide the necessary building blocks for personal growth. By embracing this comprehensive approach, you can navigate life's complexities with greater ease and confidence, leading to a more fulfilling and authentic life. Remember, personal growth is a journey, not a destination, and a holistic approach with a step-by-step process can guide us toward a more authentic and meaningful existence.
Three Steps To Take...
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A Holistic Approach To Life's Difficulties As The Portal For Profound Change, Healing, and The Pathway To Peace
This community will encourage and empower you to heal and overcome the challenges of estrangement. Here, you'll find others who share similar experiences, offering support and guidance on rebuilding lost connections. By fostering a culture of understanding and positivity, our community helps individuals restore their emotional well-being and improve the relationships with themselves and family members.
This community holds the keys for those who want to navigate the hurt and pain of estrangement through healing themselves and rebuilding lost connections.
Here, you will reclaim yourself and rebuild from the inside out, restore peace, and take the next steps toward emotional well-being for yourself and your family.
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